Fear seeks safety. Love seeks Truth. Please read and enjoy. Productive, truthful feedback welcome.

Wednesday, May 15, 2019

Story Time


When we encounter something that initially troubles us, very often we have incomplete information, and, we have choices.  

We get to choose what level of energy to spend on it.
Do we choose to ignore it?
Do we take it at face value?
Or do we add our own energy to it?

If we do add energy to the event, we do so by telling ourselves a story to fill in the gaps.
Not the actual gaps.
We can't know those without further discovery.
But the gaps as we see them.
The gaps that help us place ourselves in the event.

Will our take on that story be one of grace and graciousness,
giving other players the benefit of the doubt?
Will it be one where we portray ourselves as the victim,
affirming that their intent was to slight us?
Or will it fall somewhere between,
establishing a safe middle ground where we take the high road while still looking down on them?

What we choose exposes our securities and insecurities,
where we are vulnerable,
where we are confident.

But in every case, we get to choose, unaware perhaps, that our story does not illuminate the truth of the event,
it merely illuminates the truth of our own heart,
reflecting our current self.

If we love the stories we tell ourselves,
if we find them to be healthy,
no change is needed.

If we don't love our stories,
if they pull us down,
perhaps we need to choose differently.

The takeaway:
By choosing to put a generous spin and positive energy to the stories we tell ourselves, we actually begin programming our heart to choose grace.

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

Time to Let it Go

Time does not make wounds better.
Letting go does.

Sometimes wounds hold onto us. 
And sometimes we hold onto wounds. 

But in both cases, to get better, time is the variable and letting go is the constant. 

The former—those wounds that hold onto us—live below our consciousness, and require awareness and vulnerability before we can let them go. These can take time to recognize and to shed.

The latter—the wounds we hold onto—live completely in our awareness and are fed by pride. These we have recognized and refuse to shed. Furthermore, whether we hold them in part or in whole, and whether we hold them against ourselves or against another, getting better requires only one thing: Forgiveness. Time is not a factor. Letting go is.

When we turn to forgiveness to loosen our grip on these wounds, we hold more space for healing.