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Monday, December 31, 2012

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Peace - December 30 (Three Basketball Games)

The Love of My Life
~~~~~
Thirty-three years ago today my life took a great bounce. At that time I professed my love for Marcie to be the equivalent of playing 3-basketball games. She didn't understand it, nor could I adequately explain it . . . until last month, when I played perhaps my last pick up game, augmented by the 4 week recovery period of my ailing left knee. This caused me to reflect on why I loved basketball so much, and why, at age 56, I tried to play again. I realized as I was racing . . . okay, gliding . . . okay, hustling up and down the court, that I wasn't playing a game. I was living in a state of peace. The peace that comes from doing something solely for enjoyment. A peace that accompanies the familiar and invites the unknown. The familiar such as the rules and the sounds of the game--the squeak of the shoes, the soft kiss of the ball off the glass.  And the unknown such as your new teammates, and how to supplement each other's weaknesses and exaggerate the strengths; how to blend different styles to the greater good of the game; how to expect and eagerly accept challenges, knowing that by working together you will find a way, a fair way, a good way. Because tho' the game has rules and sounds, it also unfolds differently every time, inviting creativity that leads to the freedom to pursue success.

Such has been my last 33 years. I have a teammate who complements my weaknesses and accentuates my strengths. We have blended our styles and worked through challenges to find our way to a good life, a great life. Like the game of pick up basketball our life has rules and sounds, yet unfolded unpredictably, inviting our creativity to choose success. To invite peace. With Marcie I am living in the state of peace, the peace that comes from doing something that brings total enjoyment. We have appreciated the familiar and embraced the unknown. 

Do I love her as much as 3 games? These 33 years later, I finally see it. Life is what brings you peace. The absence of peace is the absence of life. Basketball has always afforded me an avenue to peace. My life with Marcie - my love for her, her love for me - is one of deep abiding peace worthy of a lifetime of basketball. 

Happy anniversary.

~~~~~

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Peace - December 29 (Time Steps Aside)


Jen Welsman and I took yoga training together in Victoria 2012, where we became friends and post-training support buddies. Jen lives in Winnipeg where she performed for the RWB and where she taught this class. I was supporting her from Minneapolis by meditatively writing during her class.

Time Steps Aside
As I write this, it is 6pm and you've just begun asana. I sit here and hold your heart in my thoughts. I am breathing as you give your intention, trying to listen to the Universe and hear your words. I picture Ryann on her back in savasana, sending you peace, gradually forgetting it's you and becoming present with the practice.

Your voice is now calm. It was shaky for a beat, maybe 5 words, then a smile settled through your body, you found your rhythm. Time has stepped aside, having been gently ushered out of the room by your peace.  It'll return, but now it's happy to assume its humble state, ceding to you and your class. Just you and the class. Their breath is steady as you glide through the room, feeling the energy, guiding the energy, giving the energy. Get them in, name it, cue them through it, get them out. An adjustment, an intention, a pause. . . a thankfulness; from you for the privilege to guide them; from them to be in class, your class. Breathing, healing, learning. A dancer teaching with the grace of a dancer. Beautifully and skillfully guiding . . . virabradrasana 1 . . . virabradrasana 2 . . . flip the palms . . .  Midway savasana.  Halfway there. More intention, more breath.

Time sneaks a peek back into the room. Not yet. The room is still yours, the room is still theirs. Your unity leaves no space for time. Respectfully, it retreats, servant to your subtle strength, patient to your purpose. More breath. More healing. More learning. More postures. Suddenly, it's final savasana. Gratitude spreads easily throughout the room, softly blanketing each. Enough for all, enough to share.

"Namaste".

Time nods its approval as it reassembles itself with each departing student. "Well done, Jen" it says. Both of you smile as if to say, "Thank you for sharing the Universe with me."

Friday, December 28, 2012

Peace - December 28 (reader contributed)

Peace is . . .

. . . the collective breathing of sixty souls sharing their final savasana together. (anonymous)

. . . experiencing it with all your senses:
  • Listen for it in the giggles of children, a purring cat, leaves dancing in a light breeze.
  • Look for it in the rising or setting sun punctuating the beginning and ending of the day, in reflections on the calm waters of a lake, or in your partner's smile. 
  • Feel it in an embrace from a dear friend, in the innocence of a  sleeping infant cradled in your arms, or in a moment of complete surrender to a higher power.
  • Breathe in the scent of peace after a spring shower, while wandering through a rose garden, or in a kitchen filled with the aroma of baking bread.
  • Taste it in a sip of wine, a cup of tea, or a kiss.    (Contributed by Judy Wilkison)

. . . acceptance: acceptance of where you are and who you are today - not yesterday, not tomorrow.... (anonymous)

. . . knowing yourself. (anonymous)

(The following was contributed by Dave Pittman)
To me peace has had an ever changing meaning...
There was a time when I thought it simply meant non harming and being kind to others; today it means the same but with a catch.

The catch is this. How can we be at peace with the universe and those around us if we haven't first found peace with ourselves?
Once one has come to find peace within, only then can they truly find total peace. This peace includes many aspects of the self. Accepting yourself and being content regardless of your relationship status, looks, possessions, job or place in society.
Non harming and non judgment truly are the way to peace but this must start with oneself first.
Overcoming internal self judgement and in turn self harming will bring total peace.
Simply said, internal peace will spawn external peace. Find internal peace with oneself, then external peace with the world and with those around you will simply happen as a natural by-product.


(Thank you each for your contributions.)

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Peace - December 5 (Dogs)


"Dogs are our link to paradise. They don't know evil or jealousy or discontent. To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring--it was peace.”
― Milan Kundera

Peace - December 17 (Worrying)

Worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles; it takes away today's peace.
-unknown

Contributed by Jennifer Welsman

Peace - December 27 (Your Shadow)


Your Shadow

It exists only in the light
with darkness as its enemy.

You cannot clutch it in your fist, 
but open your hand and it increases five fold.

From dusk to dawn it touches many.
At noon it is yours alone, renewing your strength.

It's a lot like peace.

- Dave Driver





Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Peace - December 25 (Prince of Peace)

For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given:
and the government shall be upon his shoulder:
and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. 

- Isaiah 9:6


Monday, December 24, 2012

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Peace - December 23 (Think It)

think it
see it
grow it
share it
be it
PEACE


(Adapted from a contribution by Judy Wilkison)

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Peace - December 22 (Gandhi)

I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship.
I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings.
My wisdom flows from the Highest light in my heart.
I salute that light in you. Let us work together for unity and love.

- Gandhi -

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Peace - December 19 (Blame)


In June I posted Our Love Stories, encouraging readers to tell their stories. Today it is my turn. My story is about peace, the peace I encountered when I eliminated blame.

I recently wrote the letter below at the suggestion of a friend who helped me recognize I was holding blame for my father. My dad died in 1998. I was convinced he had not loved me. When I let go of this blame I was overcome with a physical, mental and emotional release that brought me to tears. And not just polite tears. These were soul searching tears. The kind that seeks, finds, destroys, and cleanses, leaving behind only peace. Perhaps, in my story you will see pieces of your own.

Dear Dad,
Tonight I discovered what I should have known all along. You did love me, and if you are capable of doing so from your current state, I want you to know I understand that now.

We are all given a set of tools from our lineage, our parentage, and our circumstances. These tools are supplemented with gifts from above. These are our tools and we use them because we know them. As we go through life we may find or develop other tools, which we will also use. There is no guarantee that those with whom, for whom, and because of whom we use these tools will actually recognize our intent. You see, they have their own tools, too, different from the sets others carry. There are some similarities and some overlap, but by and large we use the tools we know in a fashion we know how to use them. This guarantees some will interpret our intentions incorrectly. Sometimes this will work to their favor and other times it will cause frustration or pain.

When I was growing up and much after I had grown up I mistook your tools and commensurate usage as being against me and not for me. I felt there was no wiggle room and I resented you for it. In reaction to your tools I made choices that were not healthy for me. I could have responded differently than I did. However, I accept my habits going into adulthood as mine alone and fully my responsibility.

I see now through the dual lens of time and experience that you loved me to the best of your ability and understanding. We come into this world, depending on your view as either perfect or broken. But this is a distinction without a difference. Soon enough we become broken. We see ourselves as something other than our true selves. We live our lives based on other's definition of love toward us and lose sight of the love God has for us. God is always there, but we are not always aware of his tools either. We don't recognize them and we respond to them according to our perspective and molding, not according to the riches of His love. Again, that is because we have experienced an imperfect love. We have the option to blame our father, others, or even  God. Which we do. We also have the option to blame ourselves, which we ultimately do, as well. However, there is no blame. Not yours, not God's, not mine. Not anyone's. We are all doing the best we can, and as long as we try to live up to a shifting human standard we will not do well. We may look well, but there is not one who is without some brokenness. So, at this point, I feel like I should 'forgive' you, but there is nothing to forgive. Being human is difficult. We do our best. We find a fit, even if that fit is 'not fitting in'. But until we find God, the God of the Universe, we will continue to settle for our own fit. That will never be adequate because it a much smaller box than is available within the expanses of the universe.

I thank you for your life and your love, for your example, whether understood or misunderstood. For from those examples I learned. I learned what can work and what should not work. I learned to think for myself and to realize that I am the hero of my story.  I get to decide how it ends. For me, I have decided it ends well. It ends well because, in spite of our respective inabilities to express it or recognize it, I know you loved me. It ends well because I now know I am good enough. I am good enough for you, though, for years I believed I was not, and now I find it unimportant. I am good enough for my family and I am good enough for myself.  I am good enough, not because I am Dave Driver, but because I am me. I am the me of my youth. I am the me who played and laughed and fell, without regard to the consequences, without regard to the looker-oners. For in my youth I was not aware of anyone looking on. I was aware only of the moment, the present time. Of me. Of those immediately around me. As I became aware of the world, I became aware of my role. I no longer will be bound by my role in the world. I will be bound by my role in God's universe. I will love him and walk with him. I do not expect my role to look very much different initially, nor do I look for my role to be the same over time. I look for my role to be breathed on me through the Spirit, which I will follow.

You loved me as you were able, some of which made sense to me, some of which did not. But ultimately all beneficial, all serving to shape me. It is my choice now. It has been for decades. I release you from my excuse bank.

I love you.

Dave

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Peace - December 18 (Thomas a Kempis)

Four Things that Bring Inward Peace
  • Be desirous to work for the welfare of another rather than seek thine own will.
  • Choose always to have less rather than more.
  • Seek always the lowest place, and to be inferior to everyone.
  • Wish always, and pray, that the will of God may be wholly fulfilled in thee.
Behold, such a man enters within the borders of peace and rest.

- Thomas a Kempis

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Peace - December 16 (A Friend)


A friend is more than a therapist or confessor, even though a friend can sometimes heal us and offer us God's forgiveness. A friend is that other person with whom we can share our solitude, our silence, and our prayer. A friend is that other person with whom we can look at a tree and say, "Isn't that beautiful," or sit on the beach and silently watch the sun disappear under the horizon. With a friend we don't have to say or do something special. With a friend we can be still and know that God is there with both of us.

― Henri J.M. Nouwen


Saturday, December 15, 2012

Peace - December 15 (Harness Love)

Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.
― Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Let us harness the energies of love and send our peace to the families in Newton, Connecticut.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Peace - December 14 (Romans)

Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.
Romans 14:19

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Peace - December 13 (Dalai Lama)


World peace must develop from inner peace. Peace is not just mere absence of violence. Peace is, I think, the manifestation of human compassion.

― Dalai Lama XIV

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Peace - December 12 (Mother Teresa)


The Simple Path

Silence is Prayer
Prayer is Faith
Faith is Love
Love is Service
The Fruit of Service is Peace

― Mother Teresa

Monday, December 10, 2012

Peace - December 10 (Spiritually Minded)

For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Romans 8:6

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Peace - December 8 (John Muir)


"Walk away quietly in any direction and taste the freedom of the mountaineer. Camp out among the grasses and gentians of glacial meadows, in craggy garden nooks full of nature's darlings. Climb the mountains and get their good tidings, Nature's peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The winds will blow their own freshness into you and the storms their energy, while cares will drop off like autumn leaves. As age comes on, one source of enjoyment after another is closed, but nature's sources never fail."

"Keep close to Nature's heart... and break clear away, once in awhile, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean".

--John Muir

Friday, December 7, 2012

Peace - December 7 (Spinning Universe)

Imagine that the universe is a great spinning engine. You want to stay near the core of the thing - right in the hub of the wheel - not out at the edges where all the wild whirling takes place, where you can get frayed and crazy. The hub of calmness - that's your heart. That's where God lives within you. So stop looking for answers in the world. Just keep coming back to that center and you'll always find peace. 
― Elizabeth Gilbert

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Peace - December 4 (Therapist)


“My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far today, I have finished 2 bags of M&M's and a chocolate cake. I feel better already.” 

― Dave Barry, MiamiPost columnist

Monday, December 3, 2012

Peace - December 3 (Inhale Beauty)


Inhale beauty....Exhale peace

You are walking on a deserted Oregon beach,
the melody of waves lapping on shore while gulls cry for attention,
breathing the intoxicating scent of clean salty air.
And scattered across miles of sand lay heart shaped rocks waiting to be discovered,
admired, kept in your pocket as profound, yet simple, reminders of your breath.
Inhale beauty. Exhale peace.


(Picture and prose contributed by Judy Wilkison)

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Peace - December 2 (Happiness)


“Many people think excitement is happiness.... But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.” 
― Thich Nhat Hanh, The Art of Power

Saturday, December 1, 2012

PEACE - December 1 (In the Midst)

As part of my continued learning from my Moksha Yoga training in June I am to complete monthly projects that align with the pillars of Moksha. This month I have chosen the pillar Be Peace and will post a daily thought, quote, picture or experience on the subject of peace.

You are invited to send your thoughts on peace for inclusion in the December peace posts.

Today's Be Peace is contributed by Jennifer Welsman


Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of these things and still be calm in your heart.
-unknown