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Saturday, July 28, 2012

99 People and You

"We would worry less about what others think of us if we knew how seldom they do."  This quote from Ethel Barrett invites us to be less influenced by what we think others think, because, truth be known, they don't, at least not about us. I love this quote because it offers me freedom to be me, unclouded by my perception of others. However, this also puts the "others" in a somewhat unfavorable light. Why don't they think about us? Are they against us? For us? Do they not care?
And, exactly who are the "others", anyway? Should we care about them?
To figure that out, imagine you are in a room of 100 people. That means 99 people are not thinking about you. Those are the others. But that also means, to those other 99 people, you are not thinking about them. So, you are also the "others". We all are "others"!
I don't know about you, but I don't mind being me, I just don't want to be the"others" in Ethel Barrett's quote. I want to think about you, to care about you, to wish for your best, to hope for your well being, to appreciate your quirks, to share where our lives overlap.
I don't want others to worry about what I think of them. I just want them to know that I do.


  1. This is a great reflection on this quote. When you shared it with us at TT I was like "AAAH...how refreshing. Fuck the others- why do I waste my time on them when they don't even think about me". It was liberating to realize I didn't have to care so much about other's reactions. BUT - I do want to care about others (personally and generally) and feel that someone out there cares about me.
    And I think we can express that with every thoughtful, non-judgemental act we commit. Your letter writing campaign was a beautiful expression of you thinking about multiple people in a caring, non-judgemental, eyes wide open kind of way. More simple but powerful acts like this could change how we relate to others-
    I just want to repeatedly HIGH 5 you for your thoughtful acts and nature.

    1. Thanks, Beth. It was not until I decided to use the quote as a intention that I saw the 'other' side. It makes a great one and should fit anyone's voice.