Fear seeks safety. Love seeks Truth. Please read and enjoy. Productive, truthful feedback welcome.

Wednesday, May 15, 2019

Story Time

When we encounter something that initially troubles us, very often we have incomplete information, and, we have choices.  

We get to choose what level of energy to spend on it.
Do we choose to ignore it?
Do we take it at face value?
Or do we add our own energy to it?

If we do add energy to the event, we do so by telling ourselves a story to fill in the gaps.
Not the actual gaps.
We can't know those without further discovery.
But the gaps as we see them.
The gaps that help us place ourselves in the event.

Will our take on that story be one of grace and graciousness,
giving other players the benefit of the doubt?
Will it be one where we portray ourselves as the victim,
affirming that their intent was to slight us?
Or will it fall somewhere between,
establishing a safe middle ground where we take the high road while still looking down on them?

What we choose exposes our securities and insecurities,
where we are vulnerable,
where we are confident.

But in every case, we get to choose, unaware perhaps, that our story does not illuminate the truth of the event,
it merely illuminates the truth of our own heart,
reflecting our current self.

If we love the stories we tell ourselves,
if we find them to be healthy,
no change is needed.

If we don't love our stories,
if they pull us down,
perhaps we need to choose differently.

The takeaway:
By choosing to put a generous spin and positive energy to the stories we tell ourselves, we actually begin programming our heart to choose grace.

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

Time to Let it Go

Time does not make wounds better.
Letting go does.

Sometimes wounds hold onto us. 
And sometimes we hold onto wounds. 

But in both cases, to get better, time is the variable and letting go is the constant. 

The former—those wounds that hold onto us—live below our consciousness, and require awareness and vulnerability before we can let them go. These can take time to recognize and to shed.

The latter—the wounds we hold onto—live completely in our awareness and are fed by pride. These we have recognized and refuse to shed. Furthermore, whether we hold them in part or in whole, and whether we hold them against ourselves or against another, getting better requires only one thing: Forgiveness. Time is not a factor. Letting go is.

When we turn to forgiveness to loosen our grip on these wounds, we hold more space for healing.

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

What Does Healthy Look Like?

Be Healthy!

What a great idea!

But what does it take to be healthy?
And what does healthy look like?

Some are said to be the picture of health. But that doesn’t really help too much, does it?
Whose picture?
Some random other’s we find in a magazine?

And let’s not stop at pictures. What about healthy sayings? The sayings that tell us what it’s like to be healthy.

On the extremely healthy end of the spectrum-of-health we encounter the following:  
Healthy as a horse.
Strong as an ox.
Fit as a fiddle.
Right as rain.
Fresh as a daisy.
Alive and kicking. (So we can kick the habit? And and thereby presumably postpone kicking
the bucket?).
Full of beans (Beans, beans the musical fruit, the more you eat . . . And who doesn’t want to
feel better?)

And somewhere beyond the middle of the spectrum-of-health we find these gems:
Frog in your throat.
Under the weather.
Sick as a dog.
White as a sheet.
Run down.
A pain in the neck (or other parts south).
Weak in the knees.

And finally, we arrive at the other extreme.
As our health dwindles, as it ultimately must, so, too, does our list:
On your last legs.
One foot in the grave.
At death’s door.
Kick the bucket (It was bound to happen).
Pushing up daisies. (Maybe that’s why they’re fresh.)

So should we then. . .
Eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we may die?

I cannot answer that for you. Maybe we should. Maybe we should not. It depends a lot upon how you eat and how you drink and how you make merry, doesn't it?

And to be honest, in 300 to 500 words, what can I really tell you about being healthy that hasn’t already been extensively covered in books, blogs, and magazines the world around?

What I can tell you with confidence is that abiding health is not found at either extreme. Health is found somewhere near the middle. And just to be clear, your middle may not be my middle, and my middle may not be other’s middle. And it may also depend upon whether you want to look like a horse or an ox, or a fiddle or a daisy. Nonetheless, “somewhere near the middle” for each of us can
be summed up in these eight words:

Eat well.
Think well.
Move well.
Love well.

And these eight words can be distilled to one.


That’s what it takes to be healthy.

Wednesday, March 13, 2019

The Secret to Getting Along

Listen. Learn. Love.
Mix and match as needed.

Reader's feel free to comment. What L words would you add?